Parenting a teenager isn’t easy, mostly because of all the different physical and emotional changes that are going on at that age, which make it nearly impossible for them to behave in a civil and reasonable way. It is partly your job to make sure that your teen understand how much you care about them and that even though they may be going through new and strange things, there are certain ways of behaving that are unacceptable.

Perhaps one of the most difficult tasks in being the parent to a teenager is balancing discipline with love and caring. When is it okay to punish your child and when is it more appropriate to give a hug or advice regarding a certain issue he or she is having? This is a question that can only be answered by you, because everyone has different ways of parenting and raising their children.

When dealing with your teenager, you always have to keep a clear and consistent line a communication open between the both of you, even if at times that can seem impossible. Aside from their tendency to avoid parental interaction, they have school and sometimes jobs that keep them out of the house and away from their parents. This is why it is all the more important that you come up with different ways to bring the family together and have quality time with one another.

Some of the major issues for teens is alcohol/drinking, smoking, drugs, and sex. These are all issues that need to be discussed because your child is inevitably going to be facing them. Peer pressure can be a very strong element in your child’s life, and it is your responsibility to do everything you can to make sure that your teen knows what to do in these types of situations. You might be surprised how much a simple conversation with straight facts can help them in a tough situation where they need to make a difficult decision regarding whether or not to partake in dangerous or risky behaviors.

By: Scott Byers

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Being a parent to a teenager isn’t easy, and there many different things that can add to that difficulty. This article will help you out by providing various methods of dealing with your teen and helping him or her reach their full potential. As a parent, part of your responsibility is to make sure your child is healthy and taken care of. Many parents neglect this basic responsibility, and to avoid that you can utilize the practical and useful information included here for your own benefit.

While there are certainly multiple problems that teenagers can have, we’ll start off by discussing some of the more common issues that you as a parent will need to know how to deal with effectively. During their teen years, kids often have the problem of dealing with peer pressure from friends and school mates. While this is certainly nothing new to children and parents alike, you will have to know some different ways to approach these issues with your child.

Because the “just say no” method really isn’t that effective when it comes to drugs, alcohol, and smoking, you need have a straight forward and honest dialogue with your child about the dangers of these things. This does not mean encouraging this kind of behavior by any means, but it does more than just tell your child that they are bad without giving any rational explanation.

Using scare tactics to keep your child away from these things will not work, so don’t even bother. The best thing you can do is to tell your child the facts and be honest. If you have any personal experience indulging in these things at your child’s age, then use that. Don’t feel ashamed or hesitant in any way to contribute your own experience, because you never know how much it could help in getting through to them.

By: Scott Byers

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Have you watched the Dog Whisperer? It is amazing to see these unruly dogs become well-behaved members of the home. The Dog Whisperer, Cesar Millan, uses certain techniques and attitudes (he calls it “calm assertive energy”) to gain control over the dogs. He says he “rehabilitates dogs and trains humans.” I think what he does is also applicable to parenting.

The most important advice he has for humans is not to let your emotions get in the way. He says that we humans often “feel sorry” for the dog and that prevents us from dealing with the dog in the way that is appropriate for the dog, and us, to enjoy the relationship.

The Dog Whisperer also points out that dogs live “in the moment.” They respond to strong leadership and require “rules, boundaries and limitations” to feel secure and part of the “pack.”

He always begins his rehabilitation with observation of the relationship between the dog and the humans. He finds that the humans are the ones that must learn a different way to handle their pets.

Jo Frost, also known as the Supernanny, performs a similar function for families with unruly kids. What she most often discovers is that the root of the problems with the kids comes from the parents.

She usually begins her visit by observing the family in action. What she most often finds is a lack of leadership from the parents. They are failing to provide structure for the kids. In some cases, the home is total chaos from the parents’ inability to assume control (or leadership) over the behavior of the children. The children do only what they want, do not comply with parental requests and treat their parents disrespectfully.

The Supernanny emphasizes that the home must have rules and there must be consequences for breaking the rules. Jo Frost also advocates maintaining a calm assertive energy when dealing with children.

Family rehabilitation usually starts with a chart for daily structure for the family and some specific techniques, such as “time-out” for the kids. You could almost say that Jo Frost “rehabilitates families and trains parents.”

It truly amazing to see the difference in the family once Jo has helped the parents understand the importance of structure and leadership - the same concept as the Dog Whisperer’s “rules, boundaries and limitations.’ Neither dogs nor children can learn the structure or the rules, boundaries and limitations without the pack leader or parents formulating them and communicating them.
I find that with our very busy lives and our desire to raise our children and our pets with compassion and understanding, we have forgotten the important basic foundations of raising children and having pets. They both need structure and framework to give them a secure foundation. They need us to assume leadership so that they feel safe and cared for.

They also need us to keep our cool and be responsive rather than reactive. When your child is being disrespectful or just not doing what you want, it is common to get angry and lose that calm, assertive demeanor.

The next time your child (or even your pet) doesn’t seem to be responding to you, ask yourself if you have provided the structure - the rules, boundaries and limitations — for this particular instance. If you find you haven’t, figure it out what you want, and then communicate it! Also check your emotions - are your buttons being pushed? Remember to maintain calm assertive energy.

By: Haynes Miller

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One of the most important lessons we need to teach our children is: You alone are responsible for your thoughts.

You choose what to think

Teach your children that they control how they feel about problems. They can choose to worry about them, complain about them or blame someone else for them. But, nothing will be resolved until they take responsibility for them.

Once they understand that they can choose not to worry, complain or blame, they can take the nest step and deal with the situation.

So, if you don’t already, start teaching your children how to be responsible for their own thoughts.

When life hands you a difficult situation, don’t complain about it. See the challenge and accept it. Find a solution.

Encourage them to look for any positive in the problem and work on it.

Assure them that when they find the solution, they will become stronger and things will get easier  Teach them to find a mantra for when problems pop up unexpectedly. This will teach them to immediately start looking for a solution instead of focusing blame or complaining. The mantra could be: “this is my responsibility”, or “I choose how to fix this”, or even “I own this”. Scenario: Jacob comes home from school with an F on his Geography paper.

“My teacher hates me.”  (complaining/blaming)

“I’ll never learn this.” (worry)

Many parents would simply say, “Don’t be silly. Your teacher doesn’t hate you. You need to study more.” This causes problems in several ways:
You are putting down your child’s feelings by telling him he is silly. You are making a problem seem like it doesn’t matter to you. You are doing nothing to counter his feeling that he will never learn. Instead, try encouraging your child to be responsible for his thoughts and find a solution. Try something like this: “What proof do you have that your teacher hates you? Is that a fact or is it just how you feel right now?”

When your child understands that he controls what he thinks about how his teacher feels, then you can move on to his statement “I’ll never learn this.”

Again, it boils down to his responsibility for his thoughts. “Is that a fact, or is that just the way you feel right now. What can I do to help?”

Help your child find a solution for his problem and soon he will be finding solutions on his own.

There are so many things to teach our children. With a little anticipation, we can learn to find teachable moments and incorporate them into everyday life. These little “lifetips” will build a foundation on which your child can build a very successful, happy life.

By: Di Stalter

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Many children have a severe allergic reaction to milk, peanuts, wheat, shellfish, latex and other types of allergens during their childhood. Having a child with these types of allergic reactions can be challenging. Even something as simple as a trip to the mall can be daunting. You wonder if it’s safe to feed your child food from the food court, or did they use latex gloves preparing it. You wonder if peanut oil was used in any of the foods and not listed on their menu. Even a friend’s birthday party becomes a hazard. You question the food he or she eats, the toys at the party and whether they are made of latex. You question everything like if peanut oil, wheat or milk was used in the birthday cake. Or if the latex balloons are going to trigger an allergic reaction in your child. The are so many substances that can cause a sever allergic reaction. Some of the more common ones are wheat allergy, an allergy to shellfish, peanut allergies, milk or lactose allergy, the list seems to be endless..

When children with allergies go to school, you worry even more because you aren’t there to watch over everything. You have to place your trust in the teachers and other adults to watch out for your child.

Your child’s school must comply with Federal requirements of the 504 Plan to provide an allergy-free meal to your child. Most schools will be happy to accommodate your child if you approach them with a comprehensive plan. Make your plan very specific. List exactly what your child can and can’t eat and what they can and can’t touch or play with.

Working together with your school officials and educators, you can be your child’s advocate so he or she can enjoy more of their school and more of the world as a whole. With careful planning and specific guidelines, your child can attend school just like every other child and you don’t have to worry yourself sick about him or her.

As a precaution, send your child to school with an epi pen. Contained in an epi-pen is a single dose of epinephrine with an auto injector device. This has become a common method of protecting children against severe allergic reactions that they may encounter during school hours. Your child’s school will be happy to keep an epi-pen on hand and you’ll both feel more relaxed knowing it’s there. Some children are mature enough to carry their own epi pen. The highest incidence of death from anaphylaxis occurs when a child having an allergic reaction doesn’t have the prescribed epinephrine close enough to him or her.

The information contained here is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice. Please seek the advice of your doctor regarding any treatment for your child’s allergies.

By: Jake Tyler

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Are you the parent of a young child, who is receiving special education services, that is concerned about whether your child has the needed skills, to learn how to read? Are you a parent of an older child with autism or a learning disability, that is concerned about your child’s reading success. This article will discuss 5 skills that No Child Left Behind (NCLB) states, are identified by research as critical to early reading success. These skills were found in the No Child Left Behind parent Guide.

Skill 1: Phonemic Awareness: Is the ability to hear and identify sounds in spoken words.

Skill 2: Phonics: Is the relationship between the letters of written language and the sounds of spoken language.

Skill 3: Fluency: Is the capacity to read text accurately and quickly.

Skill 4: Vocabulary: Is the words students must know to communicate effectively.

Skill 5: Comprehension: Is the ability to understand and gain meaning from what has been read.

You should make sure, that any reading program that is used for your child with a disability, to teach them how to read, contain these 5 skills. No Child Left Behind requires that any educational program used should be scientifically research based. What this means is that the education program (reading program), must have research to show that the program is effective to teach children to read.

In 2000 the Report of the National Reading Program identified these 5 skills as critical to children learning to read early. In April 2000 these research findings were reported in the National Reading Panel, they have now been written into the NCLB law. Reading first is the program that was started under No Child Left Behind, to help school districts to improve reading achievement.

By making sure that your child’s reading program contains these five skills, you will be increasing your child’s chances of learning to read. You must be involved with your child’s education to ensure that the child continues to make academic progress, and learns to read. Reading gives children a chance at a fulfilled life!

By: JoAnn Collins

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Even though talking to our children is really important, because that is how they learn, we need to be particularly mindful that we are also listening from their point of view. This is so important, because not only does it help develop their language and cognitive skills, but it is a wonderful way for our children’s self-esteem to grow because they are being heard. Listening deeply to your child is one essential way to have a close and connected relationship with them.

To ensure that you are truly listening to your child ask yourself these seven questions:

1. Do you spend more time talking to your child rather than listening?


2. Do you finish their sentences for them?


3. Do you interrupt?


4. Do you plan what you are going to say before your child has finished?


5. Do you give your child the answer or solution rather than let them work it out for themselves?


6. Do you ask your child closed or open ended questions?


(Closed questions are ones to which you can answer a simple yes or no. Open ended questions do what they say – they open up the conversation.)

7. Do you ask yourself at the end of every day: “Have I really listened to my child today?”


If your answers to these questions have left you thinking that you need to listen to your children more, what a great step you are now able to take to ensure a loving closeness with your children and what an opportunity you will give them to boost their self-esteem. Their opinions and ideas will be heard and they will very much be a part of your family’s decision making. Such a gift you will give!

If your answers to these questions left you thinking that you do listen to your children well – congratulations – you are giving your children a great start as they are able to express their feelings and thoughts and contribute to family discussion.

The bottom line is that listening deeply to our children is so important and once we as parents are aware of that, we can listen with our lips shut and with our hearts, to give our kids every opportunity to express who they really are.

By: Barbara Beccari

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Do not let children grow up thinking it is okay to be bitter or angry with their parents or worse, hate their parents. As parent, you do not plant the seeds of bitterness or anger in the mind of your children by pouring your bitterness or unhappiness onto your children. Instead show your children the greatness of togetherness by taking them to visit their grandparents or have meals together on a regular basis. Single parent is more prone to affect the young mind of their children by telling them events or incidents committed by the other parent that had hurt the single parent’s feelings. Problems or issues between the parents are best kept amongst themselves and not turn to their children. It is not fair for either of the parents to expect their children to take side or sympathize with either of them.

As children, we were taught to love, respect and be filial to our parents. We are required to respect our parents from time immemorial just simply because they are our parents! Take note that we are not taught to respect “good”, “perfect”, “wonderful”, “nice”, “great” or “fantastic” parents. No human is perfect in this world and our parents are just ordinary human beings, so they do make mistakes and errors in their life.

It saddens me to see that the relationship between parents and children can turn so terribly wrong sometimes. Whatever that had happened in the past, there must be something that the children can be grateful for. What about the parental care given to the children while they were still infants? At the minimum, any parent would have invested money and considerable efforts in bringing up their children and provide their children with certain levels of education to make their children what they are today. Furthermore, these children were well taken care of to become a healthy adult today. Even if our parents had failed us miserably in the past, just treat them as they are today and forgive them for their past.

The children must not let the anger blinds their eyes so much that they failed to see the kindness that they have received from their parents. They must not be so ungrateful that they took things for granted. There is no point in keeping negative memories of the past. One cannot keep all these negative emotions bottled up and remain unforgiving forever.

During their twilight years, the parents welcome their children’s presence and company more than anything else. A visit by their children will bring them warmth and comfort to their hearts and tears of joy. No matter what had happened in the past, choose forgiveness and reconciliation rather than animosity.

By: Kim Siang Ng

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Exercise is essentially important to the health of the infant. Its first exercise, of course, will be in the nurse’s arms. After a month or two, when it begins to sleep less during the day, it will delight to roll and kick about on the sofa: it will thus use its limbs freely; and this, with carrying out into the open air, is all the exercise it requires at this period.

When the child has acquired sufficient strength to take active exercise, he can scarcely be too much in the open air; the more he is habituated to this, the more capable will he be of bearing the vicissitudes of the climate. Children, too, should always be allowed to amuse themselves at pleasure, for they will generally take that kind and degree of exercise which is best calculated to promote the growth and development of the body. In the unrestrained indulgence of their youthful sports, every muscle of the body comes in for its share of active exercise; and free growth, vigor, and health are the result.

If, however, a child is delicate and strumous, and too feeble to take sufficient exercise on foot, and to such a constitution the respiration of pure air and exercise are indispensable for the improvement of health, and without them all other efforts will fail, riding on a donkey or pony forms the best substitute. This kind of exercise will always be found of infinite service to delicate children; it amuses the mind, and exercises the muscles of the whole body, and yet in so gentle a manner as to induce little fatigue.

The exercises of horseback, however, are most particularly useful where there is a tendency in the constitution to pulmonary consumption, either from hereditary or accidental causes. It is here beneficial, as well through its influence on the general health, as more directly on the lungs themselves. There can be no doubt that the lungs, like the muscles of the body, acquire power and health of function by exercise. Now during a ride this is obtained, and without much fatigue to the body.

The free and equable expansion of the lungs by full inspiration, necessarily takes place; this maintains their healthy structure, by keeping all the air-passages open and previous; it prevents congestion in the pulmonary circulation, and at the same time provides more completely for the necessary chemical action on the blood, by changing, at each act of respiration, a sufficient proportion of the whole air contained in the lungs, all objects of great importance, and all capable of being promoted, more or less, by the means in question.

By: Roger Mitchell

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Kids should help out around the house. Chores have many advantages to children. First of all, they get exercise when they do chores around the house. The statistics show that an average child watches over seven hours of television in one day. A lot of kids also spend many hours by playing video game. As a result, they rarely move a muscle. Secondly, chores teach them about responsibility. Kids need to learn how to clean up after themselves.

Unfortunately, it is not always easy to get them to do chores. Sometimes it can be very difficult to ask children to help out, even if you are asking them to do small things like taking out the garbage. Some children may even ask you to compensate them for doing chores.

How do you train your children to do chores around the house? One of the best tricks is to lead by example. Believe it or not, your children observe you on how to act. Sometimes it is not enough to just tell them to clean up after themselves. If you show them bad examples, they will follow your behaviors. Your actions always speak louder than words.

Furthermore, you should clearly define list of chores to your children. So they will know exactly what they have to do. For instance, you can post a written list of chores for them.

Finally, you should not pay your children for doing chores. No one should get paid for washing the dishes. Children need to learn to help out their parents, even if they are not paid.

By: Jared Lee

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