Being a mother of two divine teenagers, I can truly say that I have no problems what so ever. Yes, my boys go out. Yes, they smoke and drink. Yes, I worry about them all the time, but is this not part of growing up? Did I not do the same things and come through on the other side? Most certainly I did. I think I would be more worried if my kids did not have a social life.

As a parent you have to adjust to the new circumstances, the new found freedom of you children, which can cause a certain amount of anxiety. I always say that I thought babies would rob you from sleeping, but teenagers are even worse. I spend my nights calling them and I am only half asleep until I know that they are safe in bed. This is not their problem. This is my problem. As long as I always know where they are and with whom I am not complaining.

Getting teenagers to work might be difficult. My kids sleep late, are hooked on the play station and seem to be more horizontal than vertical.

I see this as a phase and I know that even they get fed up with that lifestyle and will eventually change. I can no longer force my boys to work. They might sit at their desk for hours but not learn a single thing. What is the point? If they do not want to do it, they will not do it. At this stage I tell them that it is their future and that they have to take responsibility for their lives. Part of this is taking responsibility for their education which will hopefully lead to the job they want to do.

I believe that the secret to nice teenagers is that we have faith in them and communicate with them. Parents have to take their children seriously. Teenagers have views and even if they are not the same as ours, we have to respect them. Who says that we are always right?

They will do everything that all teenagers do and in most cases they will come through it unscathed. Yes, there are exceptions but most teenagers I know are just wonderful people.

By: Bettina Langer

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One of the most memorable but challenging moments that come into your life is when you go on family outings especially with your teenage children. There is nothing like sharing happy moments with them in an atmosphere full of love and merriment. However, you may have that misconception like most parents do, that teenagers find family outings boring, and that they would rather spend time with their friends and not with their parents or younger siblings. So you end up foregoing any plans of bonding with your teenagers to avoid conflict which is totally a mistake.

Adolescence may be a difficult stage for a child because of the hormonal, physical and psychological changes that can affect their thoughts and behavior. It is also the stage where friends start to have more influence on them, and where your child starts imposing their authority and independence. Contrary to the belief of some parents to back off and give their children more independence in managing their lives, adolescence is a stage where the parents should even be more involved in their activities to continue mentoring them during this difficult period. Family outings are one the activities where you can promote mentoring and maintaining the connectivity.

Plan your outing ahead of time

Discuss your plans to go outing with your teenage son or daughter. It is important for your adolescent to feel that they have a say on the matter. You also have to be flexible regarding their requests to bring a friend along. You may acquiesce at times but you can gently say no most of the time. You may have decided already on where to go, but try to discuss them just the same with your child and encourage them to give ideas on what to bring and involve them in the preparations.

Some of the outdoor activities that your teenagers will enjoy include:

Ziplines – where you are strapped securely into a harness that runs on a cable several feet high and several meters long and will zip you from one end to another.

River rafting in a kayak or inflated boat – you traverse the river rapids and get to commune with nature along the river.

Vertical wind tunnels – you get to literally fly as high as 30 feet inside the wind tunnel that is powered by giant electric fans.

Jet ski – a water motorcycle that can go on high speed. Just make sure that your child is a good swimmer because they can fall while maneuvering the jet ski.

Ensure the safety of the family

This is a matter that should never be taken for granted when going out with the family, and you should take the time to include this in your discussion with your teenage child. Inform them of the precautionary measures that should be remembered especially when your excursion may expose your family to certain amount of risks if they are careless.

Family outings are great moments for bonding with your teenage kids. Always find the time to do them as often as you can and be extra sensitive to your children’s needs and interests. Teenagers do yearn for attention and even if they can sometimes drive you crazy with their mood swings and the, “You don’t have to tell me. I know that already” attitude, always involve them in your family activities. Don’t be fooled by their “I don’t care” demeanor. They care a lot about family so don’t throw away the chance to always be there for them.

By: Colby Brister

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Until about the age of six, children do not generally have the aptitude to think in abstract terms. But they do have an imagination, and they do fantasize… it is just that they reduce or compare the fantasy to something real that they can comprehend. If they fantasize about a “universal mind” or a “universal being” or God then they usually conjure up an image that is real to them.

Then, until about twelve, it is the family traditions and their observations of family faith that are the motivations for their spiritual thinking. This is the age… from about six to twelve… that family values of Right Action and moral behavior have the most profound influence on spiritual values. That is why it is so difficult for children from dysfunctional homes or broken marriages to craft their adult belief systems easily.

By the teenage years, spirituality has been established, sometimes unbeknownst to the teen! For those from well grounded homes, spirituality is evident… through both words and behaviors. But many teens that are not subject to daily demonstrations of faith do, never the less, manage to evolve as spiritual beings. It is, after all, an inherent legacy in us all.

So, empowering children with Spirit is an adult quest to which we should all aspire. It means recognizing that children at an early age, when they are only able to think in concrete terms, be empowered with the real visions that they can comprehend. It means answering questions and allowing them to express their ideas. It mean encouraging good thoughts and discouraging mean spirited ideas and actions.

By: Stuart Malkin

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Just about all parents have some fears about the day when their teenage children will begin dating and for a lot of parents it also signals the point at which their children are making the break from childhood into adulthood. In many cases, it is also viewed as the point when your children take their first steps to strike out on their own and this is normally taken as a sign that they no longer need you. Nothing could be further from the truth. Dating is merely another stage on the long path of normal teenage development and they undoubtedly do still need you – and will need you for a long time to come. Nevertheless, this is sometimes a difficult time in a teenager’s life and there is a great deal that you can do to make life simpler for both you and your children.

As is the case with most other things, success in dating begins with education and it is vital to sit down with your teenagers before they begin dating to talk about what makes a good relationship. It is all too easy to take it for granted that your teenagers already know the ins and outs of dating but they almost certainly will not. If you think about it, much of their information on the subject will probably have been gleaned from television where most of the relationships are not intended to reflect the real world but merely to entertain the viewers. Your teenagers have to be taught just what it means to be in a loving and supportive relationship and the best way to learn just what that means is to talk with you about your own personal experience. This said, it is also true that your teenagers will learn not merely from what they hear, but also from what they see with their own two eyes and so setting a good example in the way that you conduct your own relationship is vital.

Once your teenagers begin dating you should enter into what will be an ongoing discussion about relationships. Your teenager’s dates will not always turn out as they or your expect and they are going to need somebody to turn to when they run into difficulties. Therefore, it is crucial that you keep the lines of communication open and also that you continue to discuss how they ought to be treating other people in a relationship as well as how they should expect to be treated themselves.

Meeting your son’s or daughter’s date for the very first time can often be an anxious moment, but it is important to make this initial meeting as comfortable as you can and to be both respectful towards and kind to your teenager’s date. And don’t make the classic mistake of giving the pair a lecture on this first meeting during which you lay down the rules for seeing each other. Any rules which you decide to impose are for your teenager and not for his or her date and should be discussed with your child alone and in private. In addition, while it is possible that you will not be impressed with your teenager’s choice of date, you ought not to let your teenager or his date pick up on this and should make a conscious effort to be supportive. Having taught your children how to conduct themselves in a relationship you need to trust them to make their own decisions and should not interfere unless you believe that the relationship is placing your teenager in danger.

It can be difficult to witness your kids growing up and getting close to new people. But, provided you take the right steps and teach them what they ought to expect from and how they should conduct themselves in a relationship, then there is every probability that things will go well and that difficulties will be few and far between for both you and your teenagers.

By: Donald Saunders

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1. Does your child have the same worries that other children have?

It is normal for children under three to have strong reactions when separated from parents. During early school years many children develop fears of insects, strangers, ghosts, etc. Teenage children can become shy and socially reserved. If our children’s fears are too strong for what is happening, or if they last too long, they may be suffering from an anxiety problem. For example, if a teenager who always does well at school becomes fearful about failing their exams, then the teenager may have developed an anxiety problem.

2. Can children explain how they feel?

Although anxiety symptoms in children may be present, usually they’ll have trouble communicating the feelings – so as parents, since they can’t talk about their fears and distresses, as a parent it’s your responsibility to be aware of any changes in your child’s behaviour, and also in the way your child deals with their feelings. For example, has your daughter become more withdrawn? Is your son sleeping less? Is your pre-schooler clinging more and doesn’t want to go anywhere without you? Is your primary school aged daughter missing a lot of school? Has your teenage son started showing signs of worry or having sudden outbursts of anger?

3. How Long Should Your Child’s Worries Last?

Normal worries don’t last long in childhood. They disappear quickly. However, if our children’s fears or worries continue for more than three or four weeks, then we should begin to get worried, and if they continue for months we need to seek professional help.

4. Something to consider regarding children from different cultures..

What may be seen as anxiety symptoms in children in one culture, may be seen as normal behaviour by people from another culture. For example, talking softly, particularly by women and children, is normal in some cultures and is not considered a sign of fear or worry.

5. It’s important to remember that…

…As parents, we’re always trying to do what’s best for our children, so if you’re concerned about unusual behaviour in your child, behaviour that other parents may be concerned about, it’s important to take the time and delve a little further. On the other hand, if you don’t identify any of the usual anxiety symptoms in your child, and you are comfortable with your child’s behaviour, then it’s unlikely you have anything to worry about.

By: Philip D English

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It has often been said that the teenage years are the “best years of your life”. However, anyone who says that does not remember what it is like being a teenager. Between school, life, parents, friends, and the fact that all of them want all of your time, there is no way to get away from the petty concerns and strains that can lead to serious stress. However, nobody seems willing to give up any of the time they demand from you, so you find yourself torn in a thousand different directions with nowhere to turn to for help. Fortunately, you do not need to deal with stress all on your own. Rather, you can find plenty of help, just as long as you look for it. Unfortunately, teenagers rarely look for help and many of the assets available to them are simply ignored. Thus, your teen stress keeps getting worse.

The first place to look for relief from teen stress is at school. There is a certain class of people who desperately want to help teens get through their problems and find solutions, but they usually sit in their offices waiting in vain for someone to talk to them. These people are guidance counselors and they are there to help you. However, it is very rare for someone to avail themselves of this prime opportunity for assistance, so actually sitting down with somebody is a treat for them and they will do all they can to help. True, most people think that guidance counselors are really just lost souls who can’t seem to get out of school, but that is not the case. Guidance counselors decided on their career because they want to help others. Which means that they want to help you.

As well, you can get help for teen stress through your teachers. True, most of the help you get will probably be for your work in the classroom but, strange as it may seem, teachers are actually human beings. They want to connect with their students so that, when you go to see them, they will be happy to help you. If you go to them in order to get help with your schoolwork, they will happily give you assistance. They can help you through any issues or difficulties that you may be having and you will can learn more from them after class than you will during class. Such one-on-one sessions can help them narrow down issues in a way that they cannot while they are lecturing to a room full of students.

Additionally, once you sit down with your teachers, you may actually discover that you enjoy talking to them. After all, to repeat a point, they are people. And because they spend so much time in the company of teenagers, they understand teen stress. However, they also understand it from a philosophical perspective that can breathe some fresh air into the problems that you are confronting. Though you may not always enjoy the answers they can provide, they will be worth thinking about and, in the fullness of time, you will probably discover that they provided a very good insight into your problems.

Another excellent source for teen stress is with your parents. This is because of a simple fact that you may not want to accept. This is the simple fact that parents tend to have children who are very similar to them. No, it’s really not pleasant to think about, since that means that you may turn out to be like your parents. But, let us put that aside for now.

Your parents were once your age (strange as that may seem) and teens often have to go through very similar problems. Thus, your parents have felt teen stress and they know what it is like. Sure, they may not want to admit that it was anything special, but they will, hopefully, remember that it was not easy at the time. So if you really need to get some sort of advice or help, sit down and talk to your parents. Not only will you get some sort of help, but you will also make their day. After all, how many parents get the chance to really connect with their teenage children?

Teen stress is one of the hardest things to get through, but you can rest assured that it has been done. Billions of people in the world have all had to go through the travails of the teenage years and they have through to the other side. So prepare yourself, get help when you need it, and look for help when you can. By relying on people who have “been there, done that” you can see your way clear to the other side. Then, you can safely look back on your teen stress and say stupid things like, “the teenage years are the best years of your life!”

Copyright 2005 Trevor Dumbleton

By: Trevor Dumbleton

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Divorce is hard enough on the separating couples, but it can come down even harder on the children. It does not matter whether your kids are grown up, or in their teens, or at a very young age – divorce can cause them emotional upheavals as well, and some of these will be carried for life.

One reason for the onset of emotional baggage like so is that kids do not understand what situations led to this decision. It’s either they refuse to see their parents’ failings, or that they simply do not understand as with the case of very young children. Here are some truths about the effects of divorce on children according to child psychology:
Children feel alienated during and after the divorce. For one thing, this life altering decision is usually not made with a child’s input, even if the child or children in question are already capable of understanding the situation. And in so doing, children feel helpless and eventually withdraw into themselves, further alienating themselves from other people. According to research: children of divorce are: 10 times more likely not to feel physically safe even in the confines of their home. 6 out of 10 children feel they are/were all alone growing up. Only 43% actually want to remember the happier times of their childhood. There are dire consequences of such emotional upheavals to children at their most impressionable ages. According to research – children of divorce are: 3 times more likely to keep dropping out, or doing very badly in school. 5 times more likely to get pregnant (or get someone pregnant) during their teen years. Suicide rates among teen children of divorce and episodes of homicides are much higher than with children from intact families. Staying together for the sake of the kids may not be such a bad idea after all.

By: M Rhiane

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On the day my teenage granddaughter disappeared I felt like I had fallen into the twilight zone. In the midst of a seemingly peaceful conversation, my once easy-going, peace oriented, loving everyone and everything granddaughter suddenly looked at me and said, “Well, I am thirteen now… this is my life and I think it should be my decision!”…

What? Who is this? And what have you done with my sweet Kaitlyn?

It began as a typical conversation regarding something Kaitlyn wanted to do. We were doing what we have always done…get the details, who-what-where-when etc. She had given me the information and shared how much fun she thought it would be to go to the Mall with this particular group of teenage friends.

I listened… and everything was pretty much the same as any other time Kaitlyn had asked permission to do something. Now, keep in mind, I am not new to this age and the emotions that go with it…I am a grandmother so I have been this down this road before not only as a mother but I can still remember this time in my life as well.

None of that mattered when I told Kaitlyn I was not comfortable with her going to the Mall without adult supervision. I calmly explained to her that there had been problems reported recently about groups of teenage boys harassing the younger girls, getting into fights, and there were even a few caught sneaking alcohol into the Mall. I was explaining to her that although I completely trusted her and her judgment, this did not sound like a safe environment for her to be in…And that’s when the stranger appeared!

The tone of her voice, the attitude behind her words, and the look…well the look on her face was as if I had literally sentenced her to solitary confinement for the rest of her life!

My first response to Kaitlyn’s outburst was utter and complete shock. I reasoned with her and tried to explain again that it was the possibility of harm that could come to her that I was concerned about. I was trying to reassure her that I totally respected her choices for her life but when it came to her physical safety, I had to step in.

She just sat there starring at me as I began to regain my composure feeling confident that at any moment the real Kaitlyn would return and we could go back to the calm reasonable way these conversations normally went. It had always been our practice to listen to each other and if for some reason I didn’t feel what she was requesting was in her best interest, she would accept it. This time I was wrong.

She stood up and went straight to her bedroom and shut the door without a word. I went to her door and listened. I could hear her crying and sobbing. I slightly tapped on the door and slowly opened it asking her if she was okay.

To be honest, I braced myself, expecting more of what had just transpired…but instead Kaitlyn jumped up from her bed, hugged me tighter than I think she had ever hugged me and cried and cried. Through her tears she said how sorry she was for what she had said and asked me to please forgive her. My heart was breaking. We sat on her bed and continued to hug each other and then she said, “I am scared. I don’t understand what just happened and why I acted like that or said what I said. What is happening to me? I am so sorry.”

It was at that moment that I was grateful that Kaitlyn and I had always had a relationship that was based on open and honest communication. I knew everything was going to be okay…Kaitlyn was back. Our conversation lasted for a good two hours and covered everything from how normal it is to want to be with your friends to how it is my job to keep her safe from physical harm.

We talked about hormones and how they affect our emotions…and what we can do as females to not allow that to control us. It was a good talk. Kaitlyn understood my reasoning about not wanting her to go to the Mall. All was well and by dinner time life was pretty much back to normal in our home.

That evening, before bed, Kaitlyn came into my room to say goodnight. She hugged me as usual and said, “I am glad we talked, and I am really glad that there isn’t anything wrong with me! I’m going to really work on not letting my emotions get the best of me…but if I ever do that again, at least we know we just need to talk about it and it will be okay again.”

I went to sleep that night feeling such as sense of gratitude and relief that Kaitlyn knew that no matter what, sharing her thoughts and feelings is the solution, but more importantly, that she trusted me to honor and respect her feelings…that I would listen.

I encourage all parents and grandparents to do whatever it takes to gain your children’s trust. Honor their thoughts and feelings by listening to them without judgment or criticism. Through the turbulent times teenagers experience, even the best of kids, like Kaitlyn, will have their moments. Having a relationship built on trust and communication will be the bridge that gets you over these bumps in the road completely intact!

By: Denny Hagel

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Kids and boys normally get pleasure from cooking, when they’re taught in an interesting method. Kids cooking is frequently a wonderful experience, filled with enjoyable and excitement. But, sometimes you and other gamers could discover it hard to make your teens to obtain hooked on to cooking. On the web cooking games for children for kids really are an outstanding method to entail your young boys and girls in cooking pursuits. Cooking games for girls may help the young people to discover concerning the fundamentals of foods and diet. It is undoubtedly interesting for the girls and boys to understand about some wonderful foods cooking tricks and nutrition facts by means of the amusing foods games for kids instead of reading through cookbooks and science textbooks. These cooking games for children can maintain your kids occupied for various hrs. Here is some fascinating information and facts about cooking games for kids for girls.

Cooking Games

Taking part in cooking girly games is an outstanding way to keep the girls and boys engaged in constructive do the trick along with teaching them food basics by way of a genuine experience. These games for children support to create your kid’s interest in cooking. Quite a few websites are out there on the internet, which provide several free on the net cooking girly games for young kids. These games for girls may support the kids to understand how to make a selection of meals including pizzas, sandwiches, salads, burgers, omelets, tea, coffee, ice creams as well as casserole recipes and barbeque cooking recipes. Enjoying cooking games is not only a favorite pastime for youngsters, but also an chance to realize the preparation of diverse kinds of foods also as the use and significance on the components. Young kids also gain knowledge about the nutritional value of every type of foods. You and your children can invest some time in playing on the web cooking games for girls together with your girls. It is an ideal method to make your children to discover the best way to cook too as to invest some quality time with them.

You will find various types of food girly games for girls like ‘Make Cranberry Smoothie’, ‘Making Xmas Cake’, ‘Making Chips’, ‘Fast Food Serving’, ‘Make a Chicken Burger’, Ice Cream Parlor’, ‘Cupcake Maker Game’, ‘Fast Fish Cooking’, ‘BBQ Hero’, ‘Grilled Skewer’, ‘Cake Decoration’, ‘Magic Baking’, ‘Donuts Mania’, Pizza Making’ etc. These games for children can be effortlessly played using a keyboard, mouse or even a combination of each. 1 from the interesting cooking games for girls is to prepare a breakfast. On this game for kids, young children are supposed to beat the eggs by dragging the eggbeater using the mouse. Then, they have to carry on to organize an omelet around the frying pan. Inside a comparable way, your young people may learn the way to make various types of cakes, pizzas, chips, cookies, milk shakes etc. Don’t get surprised, in the case that 1 morning your child arrives inside your room with a mouth-watering dish of breakfast and a glass of delightful milk shake or steaming coffee.

An additional fascinating cooking game for girls for older children consists of the fundamentals of operating a restaurant. In this game for children, players get some helpful lessons about the way to cook and serve the dishes towards the clients inside a restaurant on time. They are also trained about maintaining a predetermined quota for that day. Thus, girls can get vital understanding about operate management by way of these cooking games for girls. Use of food puzzles is an additional kind of amusing cooking games for girls. Within this game for kids, young people are asked to match the foods objects with their components. Kids can get detailed details about ingredients of each meals item and their nutritional worth. No wonder, if your child reminds that you and your kids have missed out any of components throughout actual cooking.

Apart from these on the net games, you and your family can arrange a cooking session to give a practical cooking experience for your kids. Make two teams of 3-4 girls and ask them to prepare some straightforward, enjoyable recipes. Allow them to choose, the important ingredients for those cooking techniques. You and your kids may give them some helpful ideas about sustaining hygiene and keeping the kitchen neat and clean, following the cooking is done. Another actual time cooking game for kids would be to run a restaurant. Allow the children determine the menu with prices. Ask them to play the part of chef, cashier, waitress and client. Use real or play foods objects to serve. Kids can discover a large number of abilities such as memory abilities, math, writing skills and great client service abilities by way of this game for girls.

It’s observed that teens who’re fussy about consuming; develop liking for all kinds of foods right after they start playing cooking games and get data concerning the nutritional significance of a variety of fruits, vegetables and diverse kinds of meals. Thus, cooking games for children for young kids is an superb supply of entertainment, which also helps to gain information about healthy eating and valuable skills in cooking and management.

By: Lora Clain

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Christmas is just around the corner and is the most celebrated day around the world. This is the season of giving and appreciating your loved ones. As Christmas is approaching, it is wise to start planning and thinking of what to buy for your teenage children or your friends children.

Selecting and buying Christmas presents for teenage children can be a daunting task as there are a huge variety of gifts and presents to choose from. It is difficult to find the right gifts that your teenage children love and priced reasonably for the parents. Many people will find themselves trying to figure out what to buy for their teenage children.

Here is a list of the Top 10 Christmas Gift & Toys for Teenager of 13 – 17 Year Olds.

Top 10 Christmas Gifts for 13 to 17 Year Olds (Boys)

1. Snap Circuits SC-300

2. PSP 3000

3. Gears of War 2

4. Apple iPod Nano (5th Generation)

5. Xbox 360 Console

6. Canon PowerShot SD1100 Digital Camera

7. Sid Meiers Civilization IV: The Complete Edition

8. Mayfair the Settlers of Catan Board Game

9. Toysmith Professional Car Designer Kit

10. Mongoose Pro Wing Dual Suspension Mountain Bike
Top 10 Christmas Gifts for 13 to 17 Year Olds (Girls)

1. Blokus Classic

2. Zune 30GB Digital Media Player

3. Halex Select 2 Game Combination Set

4. T Girl by Tommy Hilfiger for Women Set

5. Kodak EasyShare C713 Digital Camera Pink

6. Island of the Blue Dolphins

7.The Official SAT Study Guide

8. American Idol All Star Challenge DVD Game

9. Seventeen (1 Year Subscription)

10. Apple iPod Touch (3rd Generation)

By: Yap Felicia

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