Jan
14
Parenting References
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Parenting is now made simple with just a click of the mouse. You can find parenting magazines online that will answer almost every parenting question you may have. No more wondering about how to approach tough situations with your children. Or wasting time, trying to figure out what is the best parenting tactic to use in certain situations. Just turn on your computer and search for parenting magazines online.
There are so many parenting magazines online to choose from. You could spend hours searching and still be left feeling amazed by what the internet has to offer when it comes to purchasing a parenting magazine online. If you have younger children or older children, you can find what you need with a parenting magazine online.
Parenting magazines online also cater to parents who have new born babies or even for your graduating child going off to college. You can also find specific articles written for parents that have concerns about their parenting skills. Gathering so much information about parenting and the best strategies to take just by reading from a parenting magazine that you got from online.
By ordering parenting magazines online, you can save lots of money and time. There will not be a need to drive to the store and waste your gas, all to feel frustrated with not be able to find what you need. Purchasing parenting magazines online can be done right from the comfort of your own home with no hassles. Most online sites also offer their customers guidance in finding exactly what they are looking for, so you can feel confident in what you are purchasing and know it is the right parenting magazine for you.
When looking for parenting magazines online, be sure to check out different sites. Most sites will have all different kinds of parenting magazines, but still not be able to offer you the magazine you are looking for. Keep looking at other sites. Eventually you will find exactly what you need. Sometimes it is best to type in other useful key words while also searching for parenting magazines online. Do not get discouraged when many sites show up. This will be a benefit to you, as it will offer you more choices in finding the absolute best parenting magazine to fit your needs.
Once you have chosen a parenting magazine online, be prepared to receive a newsletter, or possibly emails, letting you in on new parenting tips and other helpful information about parenting. These new letters and emails are usually free and will provide you with even more than what your parenting magazine has inside.
So it is now time to stop feeling like the last parent without all the answers. Purchase a parenting magazine online today and you can start reaping the benefits by tomorrow. Not only will you feel like you have more knowledge about parenting, but you will also feel more confident in knowing that you are doing the right thing. Your children are worth it and will benefit from your new found knowledge as well.
By: Gary Pearson
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Jan
9
Parenting is a rigid science to understand. Most parents go bizarre in trying to understand the art of parenting. People may find parenting a hard cookie to crumble as it requires dealing with children’s behavior and understanding what the child actually requires. People search for resources in order to make themselves better parents. Parenting resources can help you become a better parent and moreover a better friend for their children. These resources include information about better parenting from every hook and corner of the world, like books, programs and other things. Gathering information that can help you become better in parenting are efficient parenting resources.
A parent is described as a friend, philosopher and guide to their children. As they say ‘with great power comes great responsibility’. One should thus try to understand every inch of better parenting by utilizing every possible parenting resource available. Resources roughly include books, programs and other things including magazines on better parenting. There are many good e-books and programs available on the world wide web that can help you turn into a friend, philosopher and guide for your child.
Now the next question every other parent out there is searching for is how are parenting resources helpful? It is clear from the above facts that these resources help parents gain a deep knowledge on the art of parenting. Better parenting would require a parent to be hard and soft at different points of time. Most parents lack knowledge, as they do not know the appropriate way of acting with their children in different situations, so resources on parenting gives out relevant information and helps a parent capitalize on their resources and motivate their child. Obtaining proper information on parenting will help one in more than one way:
Better parenting information helps a parent to understand their child and help their child overcome their anxiety and panic.
Resources can help people understand the concept of parenting to the deepest of levels.
It helps you to be a friend and a guide to your children.
By: Made Suparta
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Jan
6
Parenting Skills
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Skills that are obvious and known to men are: performing skills (like singing, dancing and acting), skills in painting, skills in sports, skills in Math, skills in cooking and in baking etc.
Like those skills mentioned above, raising up children is a mixture of the delicate balance between responsibility and skills.
There is such term as “Parenting Skills”. Like those skills mentioned, parenting skills are also honed and enhanced. Skills in parenting however, is different. Parenting skills become required as soon as you become a parent. There is no such thing as “Parenting is not my skill”. When you become a parent, you have to have this skill.
While there is no university, school or special classes that teach parents about parenting skills, skills in parenting can be learned. It is not something that you discover and voila… you are good at it. Parenting is more of practicing your responsibility as a parent in loving but practical means.
Parents’ best teachers are indeed their day to day experiences as parents. Mistakes in parenting are very normal and usual especially for first time parents. First time parents feel all the anxiety, fear and worry about their children and their children’s future. Apprehensions and hold backs are normal for parents and again, most especially the first time parents. Simply said, parenting starts with, “I really do not know what to do first.”
Parenting skills officially start when the baby comes out of your womb. Being a parent means you are the source of guidance, care and love to your children. Parenting skills also vary. There are those who are very creative, some are strict and total disciplinarians, others are so loose about their children while others are still nervous about their skills as parents.
Do not worry. Parenting skills take time and are not developed and enhanced over night. As your children grow, you also grow with them in essence. Parenting skills are not also transferable. No one can do the parenting best that you- because the main responsibility is given to you as parent. You cannot expect that your neighbor next door will be the parent for your children. Nor can you expect that your children’s teachers will become the main parent. Parenting skills start with you and in you.
Parenting skills are not something that is graded. No one can accuse you that you are a bad parent however, your children and who they will become in life is a big marker for you. How you have raised your children will reflect on the choices that they make in life, even if they are all grown up. Life has given you so much time to help shape your children’s future, so shape it in the best way.
While self help books and your parent friend’s advices are available for you, there is no blueprint for parenting. As mentioned above, experience is the best teacher. However, it is important also to seek advice from parents who are respected and reputable. No one is stopping you to imitate something that is worth looking out for.
By: Jane Artisan
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Jan
6
With divorce rates now at record high levels the number of children living in single parent homes is higher than ever and whether you’re a mom or a dad single parenting presents you with some unique challenges.
The first set of problems that a single parent faces are practical and, as most single parents these days have to work, these involve such things as finding suitable day-care, making arrangements when having to work late or at weekends and fitting in everyday activities such as shopping.
How you cope with these practical difficulties will depend very much on your personal circumstances and financial position, but many single parents are often able to rely on older children to care for younger ones and on help from family and friends. In most cases these problems are not too difficult to overcome and a reasonable solution can usually be found.
It is often issues beyond the purely practical that present single parents with the greatest challenge and the loss of a partner to discuss problems with, to use as a sounding board and to bounce ideas off can be difficult.
Some parents also find it difficult to deal with children of the opposite sex and, in particular, miss the input from the same sex parent who is able to draw on his or her own experience of childhood.
In many cases these problems can also be overcome by turning to other family members or friends for advice, but this is not always quite so easy or practical.
On the other side of the coin many of the problems posed by single parenting are balanced by what many see as often considerable advantages. The loss of a partner also frequently brings with it the loss of disagreements, arguments and tension in the household and can make it much easier to establish guidelines and rules for the children without having to debate them with a partner.
Many single parents both consciously or sub-consciously make a greater effort to spend time with their children and also find themselves talking far more to their children. The result is that single parents often grow much closer to their children and a much stronger bond develops between parent an children, to the benefit of both.
It is often the case that children in single parent households also mature at a younger age and develop a greater sense of responsibility. Studies also show that children of single parents suffer no detrimental effects in terms of both their personal and educational development.
While on the one hand it may seem that the loss of a partner to share in the care of the children would be detrimental, single parenting provides a unique opportunity for you to influence the development of your children without the hindrance that having a partner can often bring. Additionally, as long as you don’t allow yourself to become bogged down with the practicalities of raising your children alone, the benefits can often far outweigh the disadvantages.
By: Donald Saunders
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Jan
3
Being a parent requires several skills that you need to understand and practice. Among these, the most important parenting skill perhaps would be patience. It may also be the most difficult to practice. However, in order to be the best parent that you can be to your child, you would need to control yourself and not give in to your child’s temper tantrums and other attitude problems.
Keep in mind that children are usually experts in getting under your skin, even when they are not intentionally doing it. Because of this, you would benefit from understanding your children’s motives and thinking. Try to check with or ask your child what is troubling him/her. This is an important step in mastering the parenting skill of patience. Through understanding your child, you would be able to be more patient when dealing with them.
Many parents lose their patience much too easily, making them burst out in anger. This has made some parents punish their children physically, shout at their children, or tell their children things that they regret later on. If this happened to you, try to remember that these tactics will only work in the short run. It could just worsen your child’s attitude or behaviors. Remember that children do not automatically understand why you get angry with them. Instead of shouting or allowing your anger to get ahead of you, it would be better to explain to your child what he/she is doing wrong and what you want done.
If you spend time with your child every day, you will be improving your patience automatically. Whether you stay with your child as homework is being completed, or playing with toys, the results may well be more connectedness and trust. You would also be able to know your child better and learn more details about your child.
These are just some of the things that you can do to master the parenting skill of patience, as patience is important in teaching your child how to survive in this world and become the best person that he/she can be. It would also help you master another parenting skill that is successfully disciplining your children.
By: Nancy Sander
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Jan
3
When creating a shared parenting plan for a child, one of the first factors to consider is the child’s age. The age of the child will have a big impact on how the parenting responsibilities will be shared, the frequency and length of visits, and how the parents can help the child adjust. Here is some advice for making a shared parenting plan for a toddler (ages 18 months to 3 years).
During the time as a toddler, a child develops quickly and substantially in many areas. It is during this time that the child recognizes himself as an individual and starts to act independently. Toddlers begin to express their own wills and desires and want to assert themselves.
Children at this age form attachments to many caregivers–child care workers, parents, grandparents, etc. They may also become fearful about transitions. This is important to note in your parenting plan. The child may have difficulty with separation so steps should be enacted to make this easier. It might be helpful to have the parent dropping off the child drive to the other parent’s house. It is also good if parents support each other and avoid negative talk and situations. Toddlers are sensitive to tension and anger.
A child of this age will do better with a predictable schedule. It’s important that both parents have regular visits with the children and that the visits are consistent. During the visits the parent should have enough time to give care to the child. This care should include feeding, napping, playing, clothing, and bathing the child. All of these activities will help the toddler bond with the parent.
A toddler is able to handle overnight visits. It is best to space these visits throughout the week so that the child isn’t away from either parent for too long. A child this age can handle being away for two or three days but not much longer than that. During this age parents can start telephone contact. The children will recognize the parents voice over the phone and will like the contact. The children also recognize pictures, so a picture of the other parent in the toddler’s room is a good idea.
This is a fun age. Parents should do fun activities with their toddler and keep note of the development. As with any child, the parents need to have good communication so they are parenting the best they can.
By: Chloe Nelsun
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Dec
30
Parenting Relationships
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Parenting relationships are hard emotionally, and I think the key ingredient in parenting relationships is for the parent to manage their emotions, so that parenting is done from a system rather than an emotion.
I have never loved like I love my kids, and I have never been angry like I can get angry at my kids, and teaching them over and over about important tasks like cleaning up the snack debris and the bedroom and bathroom debris and the fire pit debris and keeping them safe, those tasks demand energy and discipline and I fear that when I teach them sternly, they will withdraw their love.
For example, we got my daughter a trampoline for her 5th birthday, and she and her almost 11 year old brother have been playing on it occasionally, and one of the neighbors stopped by recently to let us know that one of my son’s friends and my son had been tormenting her in tandem one day, when they were all on the trampoline, with some very cruel name calling, so cruel that Bill said it bordered on abuse, and he wanted us to know.
I was really shocked that Shane could do that, and really shocked that he allowed Brandon, who is almost 11 also, to participate.
It is a clear case of bullying, and a clear case of abuse of power, and I found it disturbing, and I let him know that I was very upset about it.
So Shane talked to his mom, and attempted to make the confrontation my fault, and she would not let him off the hook, thank the good Lord.
Those kinds of interactions around those kinds of behaviors, a little more serious than Kiddie Crimes, are very hard on parenting relationships.
I know when those things happen I feel fear, and the thoughts are worrisome for me, because I am always looking for trends about how he is doing.
This is the same kid who loves baseball and improved his game about 100% from last year to this year, who is doing above average with his grades, who is for the most part very adept at friendships.
This is the kid who looks at me with love and asks for time, and occasionally asks for my insights, and this is the kid who does see the need to spend time developing his intellect.
His school work is done as fast as he can get it done and is usually sloppy, and he is developing the ability to dodge my pointed questions.
So how do I balance our relationship so that he knows he is loved and valued, and that I will play and joke, but that I will also be Dad, the rule maker and boundary keeper, and consequence giver if need be.
Sometimes I need to put aside the fear that he will not love me, and just do the right thing, keep the boundary, in hopes that we can talk later about what just happened.
Parenting Relationships and Emotional Regulation
I believe that the most important thing I can do as a parent is to manage the level of intensity I bring to my conversation with my son.
The best tools for that are cognitive and physiological.
I need to remember what I want to teach, and if my emotion is too intense, I will be teaching fear rather than choices and consequences.
The best tool for regulating emotions, and the least expensive, is deep breathing, and with all of my experience with prayer and meditation, I still find myself breathing very shallow in my chest, and actually keeping an adrenalin and cortisol based physiology going on, but I can change that to something much more pleasant by simply taking a few deep breaths, or using heart rate variability biofeedback which is a profoundly useful tool for parenting relationships, and brain fitness, something I want my kids to have lots of.
Heart Based Parenting Relationships
HeartMath, or heart rate variability biofeedback, is based on a new field of study called neurocardiology, or the study of the heart’s own nervous system.
Long story short, I and my heart can learn to work very closely together, heart beat by heart beat, and my heart intelligence is cooperative and affiliative, and if I create my heart rate variability biofeedback physiology before and during parenting, then I will be much more effective at delivering information to my children about consequences to their choices, rather than fear of getting caught and Dad.
I have been using heart rate variability biofeedback personally and teaching it professionally for about 8 years, and I love it.
I can manage my internal physiology and feel good heart beat by heart beat, and I and my family can literally get on the same heart beat, and attend to the family heart beat.
Is this heart rate variability hard to learn? No.
Does heart rate variability have benefits for my health, and my brain fitness?
Most definitely.
Can heart rate variability make a difference for my children’s tests at school?
Absolutely.
Heart rate variability biofeedback is an excellent platform for family relationships, and especially for parenting relationships.
By: Mike Logan
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Dec
29
There are many different aspects of parenting that qualify as alternative parenting, including Christian parenting, gay parenting and surrogate parenting. All of these are somewhat normative in that they involve loving sets of parents that take care of their children, but many of the details can create a stir in the hearts and minds of detractors. Whether or not the debate surrounding Christian parenting, gay parenting and surrogate parenting is necessary is irrelevant because it exists and we are inundated with it.
Parenting rights tends to be the biggest issue here. Who has the right to be a parent? What makes someone a good parent? Do parents need rights? All of these questions will consistently remain a fundamental part of the marriage and family debates in North America. The reality is, however, that many people do not know the answers to these parenting rights questions. Moreover, many people don’t seem to care.
While Christian parenting and gay parenting may seem to be polar opposites, they are often greeted by opposition in the public arena because of the controversial viewpoints that exist. While on the one hand, Christian parenting detractors vocalize their opinions on the notion that Christian parenting involves teaching children a “mythology” at a very young age without offering choices, they also advocate that this parenting approach traditionally expresses solid value systems in children.
The same perplexing two-pronged sentiments are expressed towards parents of the homosexual persuasion. One the one hand, many people seem to intrinsically doubt the notion that two homosexual people can be parents. On the other hand, people also think that the only requirement of a marriage and a family relationship is for the two people to be loving and capable of compassion in regards to one another. In that respect, one would assume that the viewpoint in terms of gay parenting seems a little bit contradictory.
Surrogate parenting is another topic that often gets thrown into the mix that affects Christian parenting and gay parenting. Surrogate parenting is the controversial practice of seeking out a vessel to carry a child until childbirth and then passing the child over to another parent. Many people object to this practice because they view it as being “baby farming”.
This objection typically comes right on the heels of the statement that a surrogate mother is one of the most tenderly giving women in the world because she gives of her own body. This confusing point of view is more evidence as to the perplexing arena of debate surrounding the various types of controversial parenting.
Christian parenting, gay parenting and surrogate parenting are all tough jobs. Let’s face it, parenting is hard enough without having the consistent ramblings of a few know-it-alls baffling the particulars of public debate.
Instead of focusing on the various social issues surrounding families in North America, there is a need to band together and focus on the facts. Christian parenting is no different than gay parenting in that the end goal is always going to be the same.
By: Mike Selvon
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Dec
28
Authoritative Parenting
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Authoritative Parenting Style dictates that you give a free rein to your child: this develops her imagination and propensity to take initiatives in life without the fear of being pulled back by someone in a position of authority.
At the same time being an authoritative parent also means controlling your child if she ventures beyond the limits of propriety or any other boundary you may have spelt out all for her benefit.
This tussle between being permissive and a disciplinarian at the same time could be a difficult thing to handle. That’s why although the authoritative style of parenting is the most effective of all the parenting styles in vogue, it demands a lot of sensitivity from the parent.
Not that it is impossible to handle. Far from it. We will presently chalk out some clear pathways through this maze made of apparently conflicting demands from the authoritative parent.
Flexibility.
You as a parent must be willing to modify the regulations set by you over time and your openness to her suggestions should be clear to her.
But so should be your authority as a parent.
Authority
You must have the final word.
She participates in the decision making. But knows there is a reality-check in place in terms of parental authoritativeness.
Let’s try and see how you could foster both these attributes of empathy and authority.
SOME DO’S AND DONT’S
To foster empathy,
1. Try not to step on her foot, i.e. infringe on her privacy or feelings.
2. Encourage free discussions on her feelings regarding everything, even regarding the rules set by you. It helps clarify a lot of things and in fact fosters both independant thinking and acceptance of authority i.e. you.
3. Respect temperamental differences between you and your child.
4. Allow free flowing discussions listening intently without interruptions and give your cogent replies only after thorough reflection. This way the child would learn how you go about analysing your decisions.
And for enforcing Authority
5. Keep the Disciplinary proceedings separate from free-flowing discussions. This brooks no dilution of authority.
6. Set Boundaries
7. Clearly state consequences for violating the rules. But keep the punishments mild unless the child is recalcitrant.
8. Dont overdo your authority thing as that leads to an authoritarian style of parenting. Beware of it.
9. Be a Role Model. Practice what you Preach. Let both your love and inner strength show through for her to model her being on it. It builds self-esteem and self-reliance.
Since Authoritative Parenting effectively means authority with empathy, it breeds lot of warmth between the child and the parent. When the child knows that he will have a hearing, he is more self assured much less rebellious. A mutual trust is fostered and it breeds tolerance, clear communication, healthy exchange of views and much better decision making.
Kudos to you for choosing to learn more about the authoritative style of parenting but one does need professional help when confronted with difficult children and instead of trying some quickfix it is often better to try out proven methods designed specifically for the problem in question. Check out some extremely effective ways to turbocharge your parenting skills.
By: Sid Sinha
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Dec
24
Parenting Disrespectful Teen Boys
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The first step in successfully parenting disrespectful teen boys is to understand why they can be so disrespectful!
Psychologists tell us that young boys today are exposed to more pressures than their counterparts in previous generations. Whereas in the past teen boys had the pressures of poverty, unemployment and even war to contend with, at least they had strong authority figures and stronger social communities to guide them. Today everything is called into question, and the security supplied by firm moral guidelines is often absent.
Not only that, but there are added school pressures – often applied by ambitious parents, who demand success in the school football team, the band, even in the spelling and debating clubs.
Boys also have concerns about safety and getting involved in the gang culture. There is peer pressure to partake in drugs and alcohol. There are the usual teen problems of low self-esteem, poor body image, and low energy.
When these factors are not recognized and help is not readily accessible, we tend to see disrespectful teen behavior. But often that’s only half the problem. Many teenage boys suffer from depression, emotional confusion, and are prone to aggression and even suicide – much more so than girls.
Pat of the reason may be because in boys’ culture it’s not ‘cool’ to talk about emotional issues with parents. So they suffer in their confusion and lash out when parents attempt to help.
How can parents cope with disrespectful teen behavior?
Teen boys need a strong role-model. If not their dad, then someone they can ‘do stuff’ with. Stuff like:
tinkering in the garage going to sports events or camping and fishing.
Boys are much more likely to talk about their problems and concerns in a relaxed, but active environment – unlike girls, who are more likely to respond to a cosy chat.
Many parents, however, feel daunted by their disrespectful teenagers. If you are one of them, you could benefit from professional help. But where do you get it and doesn’t it cost the earth?
The good news is that expert help is readily available online, and at a tiny proportion of the price you’d pay for personal one-on-one help. Within a few short weeks the distress of parenting a disrespectful teen boy could be a thing of the past.
By: Frank McGinty
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