ADHD alone is difficult to deal with, but ADHD comorbid (or combined) with ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) creates chaos.

If your child periodically talks back defiantly, slams doors, acts stubborn, and blows up but has some control to calm himself down, feel remorse, and accept consoling and logical explanations, he does not have ODD.

What is ODD?

If your child is hot-headed, gets angry frequently, loses his temper, is spiteful and vindictive, deliberately annoys people around him (at home and school alike), argues with adults, defies you, and refuses to carry out rules and adults’ requests, be forewarned.

If he is easily annoyed by others and overreacts to remarks by others, but never owns up to his mistakes because they are always somebody’s fault, this is a kid with full-fledged ODD.

This is not a phase that will pass. He cannot control these behaviors. He does not feel remorse for causing the hurt feelings and chaos in his environment.

He definitely needs treatment and may need additional medication (beyond what is prescribed for ADHD).

What Causes ODD?

ODD rarely travels alone. Frustrated from harsh adult reactions to his characteristics, a child with ADHD will often develop ODD as a defense mechanism against adults. This is why 65% of children with ADHD develop ODD.

The child with ODD opposes adults because he had a bad experience in the past caused by adults’ poor judgment. In his opinion, adults are not to be trusted. He believes he is smarter than adults so he trusts only his instincts, opinions, and observations.

To feel safe, he schemes to control, dominate, and manipulate his environment. He believes he is the only one who can take care of his welfare so he thinks only of one thing, “What’s my payoff?”

How to Change Your Child with ODD

Now that you know the “thinking errors” of defiant children, you need to adopt new ways to cope with and solve your child’s behavior problems.

To change your child with ODD, you need to do the following: *Provide structure-to make his environment orderly and predictable. *Talk and act assertively-Give short instructions and responses. This one technique will cut down on screaming and yelling in the house. Learn proper child discipline for children with ODD. *Tell him how you expect him to behave. Be his model. Train the values you want him to demonstrate. *Set up a token system (behavior chart)-to convince him he is being paid for improved behavior.

You CAN Solve This

It sounds simple and it is if you can find the right guide with sound parenting advice. If you are ready to adopt new ways to cope with and change your child, I invite you to use these parenting tips to get started.

By: Debra Sale Wendler

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When you have your first child, you read all the books on child-rearing and draw upon your own experiences with your own parents, and think you have all the answers to bring up a happy, healthy child who will be a contributing member of society. Unfortunately for many parents, something goes wrong. They may do everything right, but they still find that their youngster exhibits defiant child behavior from an early age.

There are many reasons why some children start to show defiant child behavior. Some studies show that it is genetic, while others show that parents are giving subconscious signals to their own children that are the same ones that their parents gave them.

In fact, if you were defiant as a child, the likelihood of your own child being defiant as well is very high.

On the other hand, some defiant child behavior is caused by trauma – an unsettled home, divorce, moving to another town, or even in some cases allergies to food. There are many different reasons why a child can suddenly turn from a beautiful, happy child into an angry, defiant monster in your home.

The key to dealing with defiance like this in your child is to nip it in the bud. In other words, as soon as it rears its ugly head, you have to deal with it because it will only get worse.

Defiance in a young child is incredibly annoying and can drive you crazy, but once you have a teenager that acts in that manner, then you have real trouble on your hands. Defiance in a teenager can lead to legal or scholastic troubles that put both you and your teenager in long-term danger.

By: Mat J. Hultquist

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Lots of parents are probably wanting to know if staying sane is possible while bringing up youngsters with behavior problems. Children always seem to find it easy to manipulate our moods the way no one else can. Child behavior problems can come in many forms and can hit children of any age. You have to know how to control and to cope with your children’s behaviour or they will run all over you. We love and adore our children without a doubt, but sometimes it’s just too hard to play the role of a parent.

Problems when it comes to child behavior vary depending on the child’s traits and upbringing. With little ones, it may involve fits and tantrums with a lot of moping and crying, kicking and screaming. This can be triggered by quite a few things. Younger kids usually have trouble talking about how they feel, and thus, they turn to constant whining and crying just to get your attention.

Showing aggressiveness and rage don’t halt just because the child is not a toddler anymore. When your son or daughter hits school age, you will still need to be troubled about these horrible and very unacceptable shows of emotional rage, but now, you’ll also have to worry about other behavior problems that may come. What do you do when your youngster starts to talk back, fool around, lie or even take other people’s stuff?

I can’t think of anyone who wants to be faced with these kinds of troubles, but sadly, by ignoring the issue, we are only making it worse. Sometimes, behavioral treatment can sort out concerns related to the lack of discipline if you recognize them soon enough. It’s crucial that you stop these behavior problems as soon as they start, because they can get out of hand.

Older kids may start to smoke, lie, steal, or even destroy property. There are teens roaming the streets almost on a regular basis wreaking havoc in the community. Being parents, it’s our job to keep our children close where we can check what they are doing from time to time and keep them under control. If you do not know what your kid has been up to, then it’s likely that he or she is up to no good. You have to keep yourself informed about of your child’s activities.

Teenagers do not want to be handled by people in authority. They usually attempt to defy authority every chance they get. A lot of folks do not believe that punishment will eradicate the problems at hand. If your kid is already defying people in authority and you punish them, then they will be more hard-headed in their belief that all people in authority are out to get them.

The most ideal thing you can do to make things better is to be his or her role model. Regardless of whether your child knows it or not, most kids end up imitating the adults in their life. Whenever your kid knows that you and your spouse are quarrelling, he or she is more likely to experience the same thing with his or her own spouse later on in life. Adolescence is hard on children as a result of all the new changes that their bodies and emotions are undergoing.

It is most important that the child sees you showing noteworthy behaviour and that he or she knows you care for and absolutely adore him or her. Try to be more understanding about what your child is undergoing. If things get too messy, then you will have to intervene. But if their behaviour is tolerable and not harming them or anyone else, it may be best to allow them to figure things out for themselves.

By: Chloe Bilboa

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Is your child constantly getting into trouble at school? Is he or she doing things you cannot imagine your child would do?

Child behavior problems may be the result of ADHD or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. A huge ADHD symptom is impulsiveness. Your child may react to things differently than a child without ADHD. Some examples are:

1) Your child seems to get angry easy. If he or she does not like something another child said they may hit or punch them. Causing your child to get into big trouble with the school.

2) Your child may jump in line and skip the other children. This causes your child to be in trouble with the teacher. The other children do not like this behavior either. This behavior may cause your child to lose friends.

Other child behavior problems include not listening to the teacher or following directions. The ADHD child has a hard time focusing on one subject. He or she can hear every distraction in the room. The ADHD child hears any tiny noise that a person without Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder blocks out. When the child does not listen to the teacher this causes more problems for your child. He or she may be punished by losing their recess or other items. Losing a recess for the Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder child is not a good punishment. Children with ADHD need to get out and run around. They need to expend their pent up energy.

A child with ADHD may have problems finishing one task. Before the task is completed he or she moves to the next thing on their mind. Many tasks are left incomplete. This is not good for the child as he or she must finish their school work. The child seems very unorganized.

Sitting still is hard for the child with ADHD. He or she may sit down but fidget a lot and/or make noises. If a child is watching television it is because the television is moving for them and the program is very interesting to them. If the ADHD child does not like the television show he or she will move onto another activity. If it is a school program and the child is not interested he or she will most likely fidget in his or her seat and/or make disruptive noises.

If you see child behavior problems such as these in your child, please talk to your family physician regarding ADHD testing and treatment.

By: Kelley Lang

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When to Look for Parenting Help

Being a parent is a wonderful part of life but at times it can prove to be the most challenging as well. No matter how well prepared you are there will be many situations that will spring a surprise on you.

One of the most vital things is to realise that you as a parent will need help. Most parents believe that they are always right or that they are in control of their relationships and discover the difficult way that that was not the case. Most of us like to think that we cope admirably as a parent and therefore do not need parenting help. However, parenting help is not always just needed because you are not good at being a parent, but also may be needed because you want to understand your child better.

In today’s world we have many problems to address and deal with at one time, which in turn
can cause tensions for both yourself and your child over a period of time. While you may be having finance, marital and emotional issues your child may be dealing with his/her own challenges, which can create conflict.

If you are already experiencing parenting difficulties or you’re trying to avoid future conflict, there are many specialist organizations that provide parenting help. These organizations can be reached either in the area that you live or via the internet.

Parental assistance may be needed particularly if your child is experimenting with dangerous practises such as smoking, drinking alcohol or worse, experimenting with drugs. If this is happening experts should be contacted as soon as possible. While you can discuss abusing alcohol and smoking with your child before the situation gets out of hand, getting involved with drugs usually needs help right that instant as any delay can lead to your child’s death.

Parenting aid will provide you and your child with help in these situations because it will be
challenging or both of you. Therefore, do not delay to contact experts for help and defuse the situation before it is too late.

Where To Look For Parenting Help

The Internet is the best place to look for parenting help. Online you will get several courses and websites, which will help the parents as well as the children in many difficult circumstances. Parental aid does not only provide advice in desperate times but also on everyday matters, where some parents may want to find a better way to deal with situations.

Parenting Chat Rooms

Regardless of a parent’s situation, there is most likely an online parenting chat room
to suit their needs There are probably thousands of these parenting chat groups across the globe, making connecting with other parents more accessible than ever. Parenting chat rooms are a great source of parenting tips and aid.

The ‘birthday group’ is a popular parenting chat room found online. The ‘birthday group’ is generally joined by pregnant women or expectant parents. They will sign up through a website and then, the expectant mothers get in touch with one another to discuss their lives, pregnancies, older children, etc. These parenting chat and email rooms provide such a wonderful service for expectant parents, particularly when it is their first child.

There are people who have belonged to the same parenting chat room for over ten years. It’s quite incredible that people continue to communicate with one another on a daily basis over ten years. Relationships formed in parenting chat rooms can become lifelong friendships, built on a lifetime of experience.

Parents who have children with special needs will often turn to their computer for information regarding their child’s particular disability or special need. One of the most useful resources that a parent can find via an internet connection is a high quality parenting chat room that is geared specifically to parents who can share their unique situation. Dealing with the lifestyle changes required in order to care for a special needs child is often exhausting and stressful.

Parenting chat rooms give parents a forum to share their concerns, their successes, their frustrations and their emotions. Because a parenting chat room is virtual, it makes it easier to share true feelings.

Parental assistance will provide you with information on how to deal with good and bad situations alike. So, go online without delay and become a better parent.

By: Gregory De Villiers

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It’s no secret that we’re living in a violent world. Between news reports on terrorism, bullying at school, and violence in the media, our children are exposed to all kinds of aggression. It’s also no secret that such violence can have negative effects on child behavior and development.

While you probably can’t quash violence in the media, bring a halt to terrorism,
or even stop the school bully from picking fights on the playground, you can
control your child’s exposure to violence. And when your son or daughter is
exposed to violence (sadly, it’s bound to happen), you can reduce the negative
effects on child behavior by discussing that act of violence with your son or
daughter.

Violent World + Busy World = Trouble

Not only do we live in a violent world, but we also live in a busy world, a
world that often leaves moms little time to supervise what they’re children
watch on TV. The unfortunate result is exposure to violence in the media.

If there wasn’t so much violence in the media, effects on child behavior may be
minimal–even. Everything in moderation, right? But sadly, television and movie
violence is certainly not delivered “in moderation.” Some experts estimate that
by the time most kids reach age 13, they have already seen more than 100,000
incidents of violence!

The National Television Violence Study, the largest ongoing scientific study of
television violence, concluded that television violence tends to be sanitized,
sensationalized and glamorized. This manipulation of the truth nature of
violence has negative effects on child behavior. Dr. Barbara Wilson, senior
researcher, states that, “Younger children have difficulty distinguishing
televised fantasy from reality, and are therefore at increased risk of imitating
cartoon violence.”

According to this same study, witnessing television violence causes children to:

1. Become less sensitive to the pain and suffering of others;

2. Have heightened fear in the world; and

3. Demonstrate increased aggression and violent behavior toward others.

It’s easy to see that violence in the media has unfortunate effects on child
behavior, which is why it’s so important for moms to monitor what their kids are
watching.

Limiting the Exposure of Violence in the Media and Reducing Its Effects

Getting ready to throw out the TV? Before you trash your tube, consider these
practical ways to lessen the effects of televised violence while still letting
your children enjoy educational programs and entertaining shows:

1. Watch a minimum of one whole episode of every program your children
would like to watch so you understand the type of content they’re being exposed
to.

2. Discuss the violence they see on TV with them, and then brainstorm, as
a family, nonviolent ways to resolve conflict.

3. Help your children differentiate between reality and unreality, and
make sure they can clearly identify the fake and the fiction.

4. Reduce your children’s exposure to media violence by introducing fun
alternatives to TV.

5. Encourage your child to watch videos you have already pre-screened and
approved whenever you’re not around.

6. Foster communication with your child. Find out what is going on at
school, and take time to talk about it.

7. Set time limits on the amount of TV. It is important to note that the
American Academy of Pediatrics recommends no more than one to two hours of
quality TV and videos a day for older children and no screen time for children
under the age of two.

A Realistic Approach to Violence in the Media: Effects on Child Behavior

Parents can’t ensure world peace, but you can create a peaceful environment in
your home–an environment that lessens the impact of violence in the media,
teaches positive problem-solving techniques, and reduces negative effects on
child behavior.

So don’t throw out your television quite yet! Just make sure you’re screening
everything that comes through it though. And when the bad stuff does sneak in,
counteract it by talking with your children. With moves like this, you’re well
on your way to being a truly ultimate mom.

By: Kelly Nault

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School authorities continually claim that they want more parent cooperation and participation in their children’s education. They complain when parents don’t show up for parent-teacher conferences or push their children to do their homework.

Yet this constant cry for parent cooperation is often a smoke screen pretense to make parents think they have some control over their children’s education. In most cases, parents have no such control. Teachers and principals may placate parents or ask for their cooperation, but they rarely make the important changes parents ask for.

For example, most parents want their children to learn to do basic arithmetic without using calculators as a crutch. A poll by Public Agenda found that 86 percent of parents want students to learn arithmetic by hand before they use calculators. However, the math-teaching policy for most public schools today is that all children beginning in kindergarten have access to calculators at all times to do math problems.

Most school districts make important teaching-method or curriculum decisions in secret, without parents’ knowledge or approval. A parent’s only recourse is to complain to principals or school authorities after these authorities have dictated their curriculum or teaching methods, and the parent sees the damage to their children. Unfortunately, such complaints are often futile.

Most parents don’t realize that school authorities don’t want their opinion. Too often, school authorities ignore parents’ suggestions or complaints because they truly believe they are the experts and parents are just annoying amateurs. As a result, some teachers, principals, or administrators feel insulted when parents make suggestions or complaints. Many school officials believe parents should not have any real input in their children’s education. That is one reason why school authorities hold their committee meetings in secret.

Another reason is that school authorities fear that parents will complain about certain classes and curriculum subjects. For instance, many public schools have introduced classes and books about homosexuality into elementary and high-school sex-education classes. When parents find out about these classes, they frequently complain to the school principal and local politicians. To avoid these complaints, public schools often try to keep secret from parents what they teach in these sex-ed classes.

Moreover, teachers, principals, and school authorities don’t have to listen to those amateur, irritating parents who complain that their kids can’t read. Public-school employees get tenure after a few years. That means, in effect, that it’s almost impossible to fire them, no matter how bad or even mediocre they are. If you couldn’t be fired, would you care about parent’s complaints? That’s why they don’t, and that’s why public-school teachers or principals can be arrogant or indifferent to parent’s legitimate complaints.

Parents, the solution is to stop hitting your head against the brick wall of arrogant public-school employees. Just walk around the wall and don’t look back. That is, consider taking your children out of public school and find real education choice and control in the education free-market. Consider homeschooling or some of the many quality, low-cost, K-12 Internet private schools listed in the Resource section of “Public Schools, Public Menace.”

By: Joel Turtel

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Parents need to be prepared and accepting to the fact that there’s a growing tendency for children to manipulate one or both parents to get what they want. When a child begins to say, “Dad always lets me,” or “If mom was here she would say it’s okay,” it’s time for parents to communicate this tendency. Parents in this situation can keep their child out of the middle by reading and implementing some or all of the information presented below. It’s important that the parent take into account the child’s age and ability to comprehend information presented to him or her.

What Parents Can Do

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