Autism is a very complex and difficult to understand disorder. Patients suffering from its symptoms mainly suffer from the impossibility to communicate with others, express their own feelings or integrate other person’s actions. The language they use is very limited but also very hard to interpret.

Children with the autistic disorder usually use the same word or phrase to express different situations. Some repeat sentences like “get in the car” as they associate it with going outside. Others say “milk and cookies” when referring to a pleasant object or a pleasant action”.

A meaningless voice tonality is commonly used while speaking and the persons around the autistic have difficulties in understanding his desires. Their body language is hard to interpret as they not necessarily smile when they are happy or cry when upset. Facial expressions, moves and gestures rarely match to what they are trying to say. Most common their voice assembles the one of a robot, is flat, high-pitched or sings-song- like.

Without any understandable means of gestures or language to express their needs, autistics cannot let others know what they wish. Most often they simply scream or even directly grab what they need. In specialty literature useful information is found about possible brain connections autistic patients make in a special circumstance when they are forced to scream in order to make themselves heard.

Autism does not usually effect the physical estate of the child, these are most often healthy and with good muscle control and still make repetitive movements. Some of them even spend hours making the same action like flapping fingers or trying dance moves and then suddenly freeze in a particular position; their behavior is known by specialists as self-stimulation or stereotyped actions. Some actions are repeated over and over again like a child running through the room and turning the lights on and off repeatedly.

Autistic children tend to develop obsessions with specific objects that may be funny, embarrassing or dangerous for the persons around them. Changes in their routine and environment are very upsetting for them as they want to eat same foods at the same hours or find their objects in the exact same position. This repetitive obsessive behavior is believed to bring stability into their lives or help them deal better with particular stimuli or pains. Other explanation may be the one saying that patients try to stimulate the diminished senses with their behavior or on the other hand use the well developed sense.

By: Groshan Fabiola

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Does your children’s behavior embarrass you while shopping? Do your children appear to be oblivious to rules and consequences while in public places? Do you intentionally avoid bringing your children with you to public places in fear of developing extreme frustration and anger? If you answered yes to any of these questions, please consider the following:

Managing your children’s behavior in public is perhaps easier than most might think. Parents simply need to follow some simple and basic rules before allowing their children to enter public places.

First before exiting your vehicle, it is very important that you ask your children to recite rules for appropriate public behavior. It is important for your children to recite these rules appropriately without your assistance. If you help or put words in your children’s mouth regarding rules, this first step will be ineffective.

Once your children appropriately recite rules for appropriate public behavior, it is encouraged that you consider offering a reward for appropriate public behavior. Rewards can consist of a later bedtime, a special treat or privilege at home, or an inexpensive purchase at the store. It must be made clear however that if your children break any rules they previously recited, they will no longer be eligible for the reward. It is important that you make no exception to this rule.

After this foundation has been established, feel free to exit your vehicle with your children to enter the store. As you shop, simply monitor your children’s behavior. You should find virtually instant improved conduct as your children will be very aware of their own behavior.

While in the store, it is strongly advised that you avoid yelling, arguing, or engaging in physical discipline of any type for this may be considered or interpreted as abusive behavior which can subsequently be reported to the police. If your children do misbehave, it is imperative that not only do they lose their reward but they also receive a specific consequence to be served at home.

Most children who lose their reward privileges will attempt to persuade their parent for a second chance. It is imperative that you resist this temptation because if you give your children a second chance, this will manifest a conditioned response where your children will always expect the opportunity for second chance. Therefore if you truly want appropriate public behavior from your children, it is important for you not to give your children a second chance.

Regarding rewards, some people think that rewarding children for appropriate behavior is inappropriate as this is a form of bribery. However, rewarding children for appropriate behavior is not a form of bribery because bribery can only affect those who have a clear understanding of right and wrong. By default, children do not as of yet have this understanding perfected. If they did, they would not be required to reside under adult supervision and they would be granted all the rights awarded to adults who by default should already know right from wrong. Please keep in mind that rewarding children for appropriate behavior in essence is called ’shaping behavior’. As parents, our job is to train, shape, and mold the behavior and minds of our children.

Please be aware that these techniques to manage public behavior might be difficult if your children’s behaviors are out of control at home. If your children have difficulty engaging in appropriate behavior at home, it would be strongly advised that you first consider developing a behavior management program with your children therefore making the above strategy more effective in managing your children’s behavior in public places.

By: Mark Lakewood

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Often I will hear parents say, “I just ignore Jr. when he has a fit or screams.”

Though there may be times when this is appropriate it is not appropriate when Jr. is less than 5 years of age! Why? Because your child needs to receive training in proper and acceptable behavior. Screaming to get your own way is not proper or acceptable! If your child is screaming to get something, there are reasons he is doing this and I caution you, you may not like them!

First, your child has been taught to scream. That’s right, taught. I know it isn’t pleasant and I know you didn’t do it intentionally, but bear with me…it is true, you taught him to scream! When babies begin to gain their independence they develop personal tastes for foods, people, their environment and even situations. In other words, they start to know what they want in life. The problem? They have a limited number of ways to communicate what they want because they have not mastered language yet. So what do they do? They wave their arms, they kick their feet, they point, they make noise, and when that doesn’t work, they muster up, and let out a blood curdling scream. Yikes!

What do you do?

Guess what??? Mom comes running and often dad and sister too! So, the kid screams more. If they want something else? They scream again. The problem is if you react to this screaming by moving faster, it will stop, temporarily. It will stop until the child decides he wants something else. In reality, reacting by moving faster will make the screaming worse! Yikes again, right? The child will condition you to move a little faster and then? Then, you begin to anticipate the child’s needs so that he won’t scream at all. Does the word servant come to mind here? Wrong! Pretty soon the child is screaming about everything and it he sees that it works much better than the new language he is learning so he screams instead of talks! Ouch! Next thing you know, mom and dad are screaming at each other for the screaming to stop. Sound familiar?

Do you want to know the rules so the insanity will stop? (view definition of insanity here)

Rule # 1 Don’t ignore it.

This is the number one thing I hear parents say that they do. It is your job as the parent to teach and train the child proper behavior. If you ignore the crummy screaming the child doesn’t know the difference between acceptable or unacceptable behavior. Children need to know the boundaries if you want happy, independent and responsible children. Do you see happy people screaming to get their own way? Only unhappy adults do that! If you really want your children to grow up and respect other people, (including you), you have to teach them “why” screaming is disrespectful to others. They need the “why” behind the discipline. Train them not to scream and then give them the reason why they shouldn’t scream. Remember to talk at their level. You might say, “Other people don’t want to hear you scream, it hurts their ears. You must learn to control your emotions and make yourself happy. We must all respect the rights of the others in order to get along.” What you are really doing is teaching them to master themselves. It is a young lesson in self-control. Mom and dad might be able to ignore screaming and fits but do we all have to endure your kid screaming? Ignoring is not the answer.

How do you do it?

Now that you know why you should train your child not to scream, how do you do it? Tell the child in a calm, level voice to stop raising his voice. Put your index finger firmly over his mouth and set him somewhere out of the way. In our household we use the bottom step of our stairway. The child must go sit on the step until they are ready to ask in a nice voice just what it is that they they want. The child is always in control of the time frame. It is their decision to stop screaming and ask nicely. As a parent, you are there for guidance. You are simply making it inconvenient for them to scream. This is incentive for them to change their own poor behavior and it avoids power struggles. If they get up from the step and they are still screaming…take them back and sit them there over and over until they get it. If they are calling your name and asking if they can get up, explain to them in a nice voice that it is their choice when they get up and they can get up when they change their mind and decide not to scream anymore.

Rule # 2 Be consistent.

If you are in a store or public area. Again, put your finger firmly over their mouth and say, “No, you may not scream, you must use a nice voice and ask for what you want.” (If the child is too young to talk, consider teaching them basic signs to ask nicely for what they want. watch future issues for more on baby signing). If they continue to scream, stand your ground and discipline them according to the parenting plan you are currently working. If you haven’t created your parenting plan, you may not have a course of action for this behavior. I would encourage you to get one. (Check out our parenting plan, Family by Design) If you don’t have a plan, you will most certainly fall into emotional parenting and that is not good for you or the child.

Rule # 3 Don’t scream at your child.

Gandhi said it perfectly when he said, be the change you want to see in other people. This is especially true with your children. Be what you want them to be because they will be what you are. Learn to control yourself and your emotions and your children will reflect that back to you.

Rule # 4 Never, ever, ever, EVER, give in to the screaming.

It is your job as the parent to teach your child to be aware of others around him and respect their rights. He is not the center of the universe. Please don’t treat your child like he is or he will be an unhappy adult. If you really love him, teach him to get along with others through teaching the importance of proper behavior.

The next time you are tempted to ignore screaming, ask yourself, do you like to hear someone else’s kid screaming to get their way? I think not.

By: Michelle Shelton

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Are you at your wits end with cycle after cycle of bad behavior with your child? Do you raise your voice more than you’d like to?

It is true that children know exactly what buttons to push when it comes to discipline. They know when and how to test your allowances. YOU…The parent, should be in full charge. Not the other way around. A colorful sticker chart proudly displayed on your refrigerator can be of some significant assistance.

A behavior modification plan (if used properly) can successfully break through the cycles of undesirable or bad behavior. This can also be an effective learning tool to assist them in progressing to a new level of social development. Children love stickers. They make them feel special.

Present this behavior modification plan to your child with enthusiasm. Talk about it in a positive way. Let them know that you want them to learn and maintain good behavior habits and this is a really fun way of doing it. Take them shopping with you to pick out the stickers. Have your spouse join in on the excitement.

It is advised to give the plan four to six weeks to be effective. This should give your child a clear understanding of YOUR expectations for his or her behavior. These charts can also be used to assist with daily chores and homework.

Sticker charts assisted me in disciplining my own son. It worked like a charm. You can use various colors of construction paper to make these charts. I used the color blue. That is my son’s favorite color. I used a black magic marker to outline the charts. But, use your imagination…you can make them up however you wish. You can also use poster paper.

At the top of the chart, write your child’s name. Then list the desirable behaviors that he or she need to learn. For example: honesty, cooperation, responsibility, kindness.

Making a chart up for each month is ideal. Draw lines separating the listed behaviors. Place the date on the left side of the chart…drawing lines for each day of the month. This way, you will have a square to display a sticker for good behavior for that particular day. Make sure you have bright, colorful stickers on hand at all times. They can include, smiley faces, stars, hearts…anything that you think will capture your child’s attention or anything they might like.

For each day your child earns your approval on a particular behavior, place a sticker on the chart for that day. Be generous when just beginning the plan to motivate and encourage. Then adjust the amount of rewards accordingly.

Help your child understand the value behind these behavior changes…(to feel better about themselves, not just to please you.)

Here are some helpful tips:

1) Be consistent with the plan. If your child feels that you have lost interest in the charts…he or she will most likely lose interest as well.

2) Go the extra mile and really show your admiration, appreciation, and approval when they display desirable behavior.

3) Take stickers with you wherever you go. You can also reward your child with them when you’re away from home. Children love to wear them on their clothes.

4) These charts are beneficial for teachers as well as parents

5) When your child completes a whole week (or month) earning stickers consequetively everyday, give them a special treat. Go out for pizza, go to the show, or let them invite a friend to stay over for the weekend.

6) (Important)…Never, ever forget to use plenty of smiles, hugs, kisses, and praise along with the rewards. Hugs and kisses go a long way. It is important to let your children know they are loved special.

By: Tammy Embrich

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Many parents strive to learn child behavior modification and control techniques. Sadly, this approach is based on a faulty assumption. It assumes that parents really have control over their child’s behaviors.

The truth is, you do not have control over anyone but yourself. Even if you exert pressure in the form of rewards and punishments to change your child’s behavior, they still choose how they will behave.

You can beg, plead, cajole, punish, and urge. You may get cooperation. You may get compliance. You might even see the behavior you want to see. When they choose to cooperate, it might look like you have control, but you don’t. Before your child’s behavior changes, they have to choose to cooperate with you.

Some people would say that their children had to cooperate or else. Here’s the question to consider: Or else what? If they want to accept some type of incredibly uncomfortable, painful, or otherwise unpleasant consequence as the result of their behavior, they can. It may seem crazy, but they could choose to accept painful, negative experiences rather than cooperate with you. It is always up to them what they actually do in any given situation.

Early in our experience as parents, we found that we had a much higher success rate with our kids when we worked to influence their behaviors rather than to control them. Every time we try to control them, they push back in some way. When we use influence strategies, they generally cooperate.

Here are three of our favorite influence strategies:

“My fourteen year old daughter was arrested for shoplifting make-up this week,” said Marie, a working mother of two girls. “Is this just normal teen behavior, or is it something more serious? She’s grounded for a month and I’ve taken away her iPod and computer privileges, but to tell the truth, I’m still in shock. I’m furious and I don’t even know how to talk to her about what she did.”

Many parents have asked me over the years, “Is shoplifting a candy bar or cosmetics or clothes the same as stealing?” The truth is, stealing is stealing. It’s criminal, antisocial and worst of all, it corrodes a child’s development, character and integrity through the use of justifications and excuses. However, shoplifting candy bars from a store and stealing with aggression are two very different acts.

Stealing is wrong, and the best way to understand it is to examine your child’s thinking. Kids who steal often feel entitled to what they’re stealing, even though they or their parents can’t afford it. There is a fierce sense of competitiveness amongst teens and pre-teens these days regarding having the cool stuff, wearing the hip clothes, and sporting hot make-up or accessories. Many kids will resort to stealing as a response to this phenomenon. Sometimes kids even steal for the sense of excitement it gives them, or do it under peer pressure. A big part of the problem is that our society’s message is completely absent of a strongly objective morality. In most movies and songs today, the bad guys do good things and the good guys do bad things, and everybody looks the same. So kids justify what they’re doing. It’s not surprising when kids develop these ambivalent feelings about integrity, character and the difference between right and wrong.

The “Five Finger Discount”-What’s Behind a Child’s Thinking When He Shoplifts?

A child’s thinking behind this type of behavior is that “No one will get hurt and the store has a lot of money.” They rationalize that they need to have this stuff in order to be accepted. They might say, “My parents won’t allow me to buy clothing or makeup like this, so I have to steal it.” But remember this: It’s our job as parents, teachers and therapists to strongly defend the concept that stealing is wrong. Tell your children this: “Stealing is wrong for two reasons: It’s illegal and puts you at risk of being arrested and prosecuted. It’s also hurtful because when you take something that doesn’t belong to you, somewhere, someone down the line is being hurt.” Make it real to your child by explaining that if they shoplift cosmetics or video games, the company adjusts its price upwards to insulate itself, and all the rest of us pay a little more for it because of it.

If your child is caught stealing, in all cases, there needs to be meaningful consequences for the behavior.

Mar

19

Stop Child Behavior Problems and Get Your Family Back

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“I had it first!”, “Give me that, mom!”, “Mom, she is looking at me!”, “Get out of my room!”, “I am not playing then!”. I am going to assume you are no stranger to these phrases. Child behavior problems can drive you crazy! I am usually up to my ears with whining by the end of the day. With 5 kids of our own child behavior problems are a staple in our house! I know they are just kids, but the constant fighting and bickering is enough to drive you insane sometimes hey?

Consistency

You can use almost any type of behavior tool on your kids but no method will work unless you are consistent. Weird I know, it is the kids who are out of control and I am saying you are the ones who have to work at it. I have been doing this for almost 8 years (our oldest just turned 8 and our youngest is almost 2) and child behavior problems will continue to exist in a house if you are not consistent. If you do something stick with it. Do not give up right away because you think it is not working.

Kids Will Test You

Child behavior problems are not any different from one family to the next. All kids will push boundaries and test you until you are about to break. We do reward charts, behavior charts, time-outs you name it with our kids and although they were excited to start the behavior modification, it never lasted more than a few days. I could never figure out why they never took me seriously. It was like they were mocking me! I was going out of my mind!

Stop the Madness

Child behavior problems do not need to take over your life. What if you could go to the store and get EVERYTHING on your list? What if your kids talked to you in a normal voice without ATTITUDE? When you ask them to clean their room THEY DO IT. Sure would be nice.

By: Tawni Ambrosius

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Being a stay home mom now, I really need to find things that work, because 16 -17 hours with the kids can wear on you a little. Please note that I may occasionally receive some form of compensation when recommending other experts services or products.

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Mar

18

ADHD Treatment Through Behavior Therapy

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ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) is a common psychological disorder that often becomes perceptible once a child starts preschool. Millions of children are diagnosed with ADHD each year, many of them before the age of six. The most prevalent form of treatment is typically prescription medication, which may help to reduce the symptoms of ADHD so the child can function normally in a school setting. Unfortunately, drug medications are not without side effects and can be addictive. For these reasons, many parents seek treatment for ADHD through behavior therapy.

Behavioral therapy, also known as behavior management, is shown to have positive results on ADHD children. The goal of behavior therapy in ADHD children is to increase the desired behaviors. This is typically achieved through using positive reinforcements when the child acts appropriately. The first step of therapy is typically to improve the relationship between the child and the parents. This is coupled with providing negative consequences and positive reinforcements to help the child increase his or her interest in pleasing the parents.

Part of the success of behavior therapy for ADHD children lies in the active interest and support of the child’s parents. Parents need to take an active role in making the therapy work for their child. This includes making and following a game plan to which both parents need to use to help guide the child to success. Parents should discuss the ongoing therapy with the doctor to ensure that the program is working for their child.

One of the most important factors in using behavioral therapy is to identify the problem early and start treatment as soon as possible. Even very young ADHD children will benefit from some form of behavioral therapy. One problem has always been early detection of ADHD in children. In the past small children that had disciplinary problems may have been expelled and told to wait until they matured slightly to enter pre-school.

Recent studies have found that when behavior therapy is started very young it can be quite successful as an alternative treatment for ADHD. In a 5-year study conducted by researchers at Lehigh University, Pennsylvania, 135 preschoolers with ADHD were treated with a variety of behavior-only therapies. After a year, researchers found that the children’s behavior and learning had improved by about 30 percent. The most effective techniques are based on consistency in rules and routine when dealing with good and bad behaviors.

In many cases, ADHD children can be treated successfully without the use of medications or through the use of reduced medication coupled with behavior therapy. ADHD children respond well the younger they are when they are diagnosed and treated. If you have concerns about whether or not your child is exhibiting symptoms of ADHD you should consult with a doctor. A qualified specialist can perform simple tests to determine if the child has ADHD and if so the severity of the condition.

By: Alvin Toh

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Drug medications are the most prevalent form of treatment for ADHD The side effects are often unpleasant and can be serious. There are alternative treatments for ADHD that are safer and yet effective. Check out the all natural and drug free treatment for ADHD at http://www.guidetoadhd.com/products/adhdremedies.html

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Mar

16

How Do You Parent a Child With Problem Behavior?

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There are many families out there who have children who exhibit “bad” behavior. Few behavioral problems in children are a result of genetics or lack of intelligence. In fact, most behavioral problems are developed through the influence the children are exposed to. Children who appear to have difficulties in their behavior are usually reacting to their environment, difficulties in the family, problems at school or to a traumatic event they have suffered in the past, to name a few. In most cases, the “bad” behavior is a result of something; kids will usually have a reason for acting a certain way, though this fact is usually ignored.

During their younger years, children are incredibly impressionable. They rely on watching their older siblings, their parents, other kids at daycare and any other family they may have regular contact with to learn how to act. If the behavior around them is generally poor behavior, then the child may start to exhibit similar behavior because they think it is the way they are supposed to act. They are young and do not clearly understand that this poor behavior is unacceptable. At this point, it is up to the parent to make it clear that their behavior is unacceptable and then teach the child how they are suppose to behave. When this problem is ignored and the parent does not define the proper behavior from the start, then the child will continue to cling to their poor behavioral habits and these can become worse over time. If the parent decides later on that they need to change the poor behavior, it can be more difficult because the bad behavior has become integrated into the child’s personality and is how they have always behaved before.

There are some situations where the child may develop poor behavior in other ways instead of the influence by others. Parents are who the child relies on to learn proper behavior, so how the parent reinforces behavior will often have a direct impact on what the child learns to be acceptable or not. For example, a parent may think it is cute when a young child utters an unacceptable word and laughs instead of telling the child that saying such a thing is not acceptable. Laughing or saying “that was cute” will only encourage the child to do it again, not understanding that it is an unacceptable word to say out loud. Good discipline must be consistent or bad behavior may be encouraged. Of course, one must be careful when handing out punishment. Being too strict can have the negative effect on the child because they might develop resentment toward the parent. Rewarding good behavior, explaining to the child why something they have said and/or done is wrong and not being overly strict or harsh with punishment will all help in promoting good behavior, if a good balance is struck.

Knowing how to best encourage the right behavior from a child can be tricky, especially for first time parents. A family therapist can offer a lot of help in dealing with a child who appears to have some behavioral problems. The family therapist can speak with both the parents and the child and find out why the child might be behaving the way they are. The family therapist can then work with the parents and child to bring about the necessary changes in order to alter the bad behavior into good behavior. Online family therapists are also available for families who would prefer the convenience of communicating with a therapist online in their home.

By: Dr. Jennifer Baxt, DMFT

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Jennifer Baxt is the owner of CompleteCounselingSolutions.com which offers a variety of online counseling services. If you would like to know more about Jennifer or any of our online therapists, visit our website.

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Mar

15

Asperger Syndrome Behavior – Teenagers and Violent Behavior, Rebellious Behavior and Aggression

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When it comes to Asperger Syndrome Behavior and teenager problems the teen years are the hardest. That is to say that the teen years are the hardest whether your child has Asperger’s Syndrome or not! Raging hormones and frustration with social interactions at school can cause a lot of anger and bad behavior during the teen years.

Asperger Syndrome Behavior – Your child may have the need to:

* Avoid responsibility – Attending school, obeying parents

* Get something – His way in a decision, your attention, control over a situation

* Manage pain – Physical and/or emotional stress that must be alleviated

* Fulfill sensory needs – Relief from heat, cold, or to satisfy thirstreb

Your child is unlikely to identify with your feelings or comprehend others’ objections to his behaviour. The only explanation you should use with him is to specifically state that the objectionable behavior is not permitted. Your son needs to follow rules, and following rules can help to focus and modify his rebellious behavior.

Asperger Syndrome Behavior modification

Behavior modification is a therapeutic approach that can change your son’s behaviour. You need to determine the need that his rebellion/aggression fulfils and teach him an acceptable replacement behavior. For example, your son can be taught to ask for, point to, or show an emotion card to indicate the need that he is trying to fulfill.

Asperger’s Self-stimulating behaviours

Sometimes, self-stimulating behaviours such as rocking or pacing are taught as replacement behaviours, but it will take time for your son to integrate these behaviours into his daily activities. If your son is severely out of control, he needs to be physically removed from the situation. Granted, this may be easier said than done, and you may need someone to help you; yet, behaviour modification can be helpful, and it must be started as soon as possible.

Maintaining a daily routine

For children and adolescents with Asperger’s Syndrome, the importance of maintaining a daily routine cannot be stressed enough. A daily routine produces behavioral stability and psychological comfort for Asperger’s children. Also, it lessens their need to make demands.

When you establish a daily routine, you eliminate some of the situations in which your son’s behaviour becomes demanding. For example, by building in regular times to give him attention, he may have less need to show aggression to try to get that attention.

Learn to recognize and communicate the causes of his aggression with your child

Ideally over time, your child will learn to recognize and communicate the causes of his aggression and get his needs met by using communication. Unfortunately, children who get their needs met due to aggression or violence are very likely to continue and escalate this oppositional behavior.

By: Karel Micek

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